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Issue IX, Vol. XXVI, No. 310 | May 2021

News and happenings for, by, about and affecting the LGBT Valley.
Project of Community Link, Inc: Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Community Service Organization. 
EST. September 1995

Community Link Projects

 
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Gray Alliance News for May 2021

Gray Alliance is a group for LGBT seniors, and we get together twice a month for social functions. The second Wednesday of the month at 6 pm we meet at different restaurants.

 

We have a potluck the final Sunday of the month at the First Congregational Church Fireside Room from 2-4 pm. It’s located at the south end of the church at 2131 N Van Ness Blvd in Fresno. Please note that although we are using a church facility, Gray Alliance has no religious affiliation. We will not be meeting Sunday, May 30, 2021.

 

If you have any questions, please call John Richardson at 559-260-1565.  Stay Safe!

Youth Alliance News May 2021

David McGee
 

Does anyone remember wishing for warm weather this last winter? Well, we’re getting there already! The Central Valley got a taste of summer early this year as May temperatures inched toward the century mark—and then gratefully returned to the more comfortable 80’s.

 

One of our Youth Alliance members showed up on our Zoom meeting in a sweatshirt recently, which seemed completely out of place, but they explained that their family keeps the temperature of their apartment low, and they get cold! Whew! We were a little worried before they explained their circumstance!

Our youth group continues to meet on Zoom. Obviously, it’s still safer to meet on a teleconference platform than in person. And since our leadership has not heard any clear directives about in-person meetings from the state of California or the County of Fresno, we will continue to meet on Zoom until it is safe to gather once again at the Big Red Church.

Some of our group members were given the chance to return to school for in-person classes this month, but so far, our youth have decided to stay home until they can get immunized against COVID-19. Two manufacturers, Pfizer and Moderna, dropped the age range for coronavirus immunizations to 16-and-above in recent weeks, so some of our youth are eligible to get the shots if they can get parental permission and arrange for an appointment. They’re even excited to be able to get the shots! What spunk!

Two weeks ago, our Grand Poobah, Jeffery Robinson, joined the Youth Alliance Zoom meeting and tried to talk our group members into creating design projects as a part of a design competition that was the kick-off event for the Fresno Rainbow Pride Celebration. Jeff explained that this year our Pride Committee has created several events to celebrate Pride in the Central Valley since we will not be able to meet in person for a parade and festival. The youth group members were polite, but apparently, they had classwork to focus on and chose not to participate in the contest. Maybe next year!

At our most recent meeting, our intrepid youth leader, Rachel, AKA Banana, asked our members to name their favorite LGBTQ recording artists, and the responses were amazing. Our youth are very attuned to queer recording artists, and they quickly named over a dozen up-and-coming artists! Naturally, the adults were blown away by all the names! And when the youth started talking about Spotify (which, it turns out, is a digital music service) the adults were once again left in the dust! Our youth obviously keep up with the latest LGBTQ music, and of course they are familiar with all the latest methods of listening to music!

The Fresno LGBTQ Youth Alliance used to meet in person in a meeting room at the Big Red Church! Until we can meet once again in person, the Youth Alliance will continue to meet virtually on Friday nights, from 7 PM to 8:30 PM, on Zoom! We will be sure to publish the meeting number and the password for our Zoom meeting on Facebook, and now that we’ve got our Instagram account going, we’ve published on Instagram, as well! COVID-19 has changed how people meet, but with its youthful ingenuity, our Youth Alliance will continue to meet! We urge any and all school-aged youth to join us on our new platform, on Friday nights!

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2021 PRIDE UPDATE!
 

We FINALLY have some news we can confirm and has been approved.

Fresno Rainbow Pride has been patiently waiting to be given the go ahead to put on the annual Pride Parade and Festival. The COVID 19 pandemic of 2020 put a halt to all large in person events last year and while we have been hopeful to organize the Pride Parade and Festival the first Saturday of June 2021, it is now apparent that this type of celebration will not be feasible this year.

Fresno Rainbow Pride has been making plans for a variety reopening scenarios all depending on the course of the pandemic. Plans A-Z, A being our large scale celebration with a parade and a big party festival. Z being not being able to do anything at all.

While we cannot put on the Parade and Festival this year we have put into place several virtual and socially distance and safe in person events. Here is a rundown of what we will be putting together for our community.
 

DRAG DIVA DRIVE-IN SHOW & SHOTS

Saturday, May 22nd  at Island Water Park parking lot. Located at 6099 W. Barstow Ave, 93723, 7-10 PM. 

Drive-in drag show and COVID vaccination clinic. Entry is $20/car (as many folks as your vehicle will seat legally).  Fresno Rainbow Pride is partnering with The Fresno County Public Health and UCSF for the vaccination clinic. UCSF will be doing the shots.  It will be the one shot Johnson and Johnson vaccine. The show is the main event and the shots are a side benefit for those interested in getting Vaccinated. Our other partners are Island Waterpark and Barb’s Drive-In. This is again an all ages event. Social distancing and the

wearing of proper facial masks are required.

Get your tickets for this event at EventBrite.

BOWLING FOR PRIDE

Sunday, May 23rd. Bowling starts at 1pm at Bowlero, located at 6450 N. Blackstone Ave.

$25 per person – includes 3 games (on average about two hours of fun) and shoes.

Raffles, and fun. Food and drinks available through Bowlero. Put on by Ray Quenga, family and friends for Fresno Rainbow Pride.

 

 



PRIDE FLAG RAISING CEREMONY AT FRESNO CITY HALL-

 

Tuesday, June 1, 2021 at Fresno City Hall. The City of Fresno will be presenting Fresno Rainbow Pride with a city proclamation and for the first time Fresno City will be raising the LGBT Pride Flag to fly proudly with the Red White and Blue United States of America Flag, the California Flag and the City of Fresno’s Flag. This will be an open event for the community to attend. A historic first one you will not want to miss.

FRESNO RAINBOW PRIDE DRIVE THROUGH FESTIVAL-

 

Saturday June 5th from 9am -12noon – Fresno City College This is a socially distanced resource fair that you will drive through in the comfort of your car. Fresno Rainbow Pride’s sponsors and the non-profit organization that serve the LGBTQ community are encouraged to decorate a booth, get decked out in Pride attire and hand out swag bags and informational packets to the attendees as they drive by. This event is free of charge to all attendees and our sponsors and the groups that provide services to our community. Plus there will be a COVID vaccine clinic where you can get your vaccine as you sit in your car if you would like to get your shot.

2021 Virtual Pride Celebration

Later that day, Saturday, June 5th we will be hosting a 2021 Virtual Pride Celebration on our New YouTube channel. Hosted by some hilarious Drag Queens and featuring video presentations by our sponsors, and non-profit organizations. Each video should be 30 seconds in length and absolutely no longer than one minute (60 seconds) with prior approval of Fresno Rainbow Pride*.

 

Your video presentation can talk about what services and products you offer our community. This is also no cost to our partners and to the community viewers. Expect celebrity cameos, encouraging statements from our grand Marshals and elected professionals, plus drag performances and a virtual Dance Party. Video presentation deadline is a firm June 1 cutoff date.

Video Submission Guidelines:

Length: 30 seconds *

Must be Family Friendly

Filmed/recorded:  HORIZONTALLY (TV Screen fashion)

MUST be Pride Themed related

Must be submitted as Final Edit (ready to go)

DEADLINE; Tuesday, June 1, 2021

 

 

 

LOVE LIVES HERE (#loveliveshere)-

A Business and Home Decorating Contest. Our Pride Committee will be visiting the residences and taking pictures of the entries. They will be posted on our social media pages and voting will be  by the number of likes each entry gets.  There will be prizes for winners.  Tower District Businesses can decorate their store front or inside their business.  You can enter the contests starting on May 15th and runs June 18th.  We will announce the winners on June 23rd. 

#LoveLivesHere. 

 

Residential participants

Email: Tracie.FresnoRainbowPride@gmail.com, committee will visit their home, take pictures and post on Facebook and IG. Most “likes” wins.  Prizes for 1st, 2nd, 3rd place.  Can decorate front or back yard.  Keep it family friendly.

Tower District Businesses

Email: Tracie.FresnoRainbowPride@gmail.com

Each business  provides a $25 gift certificate for their business for entry. Committee will photograph and post on Facebook and IG. Most likes wins.

 

Winner will be receiving an inaugural event plaque and a presence through the remainder of the year on our site.

Customers encouraged to visit participating businesses. Paying customers entered into drawing.  Winners receive gift cert for that business.  Committee will provide raffle tickets for them to use.

 

 

 

 

PRIDE CARAVAN-

Sunday, June 6th there will be a Pride Caravan traveling a route through Fresno. We the Tower roads are open we will be showing our colorfully, prideful, and loud support of the Save The Tower Protestors at Wishon and Olive. Open to everyone. The only requirement will be decking your ride out in Rainbow Pride.

SAN JOAQUIN VALLEY PRIDE DECLARATION
 

Fresno Rainbow Pride is coordinating a San Joaquin Valley Pride Declaration.  Uniting Kern County, Tulare, Fresno, Madera, Merced, Stanislaus, San Joaquin counties and the cities there in. Think city and county proclamations and Rainbow Flag raisings at city Hall and county seats. This will be a virtual event with each group representing their regions and shown on our new YouTube channel

 

 

 

 

 

THE  LGBTQ BAR CRAWL

And finally a LGBTQ Crawl in the Tower District where we will be queering all of the bars, nightclubs and eateries. Date to be announce later. 21 and over at bars and nightclubs where applicable. 

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Local

 
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Housing needs for Fresno's LGBTQ2+ community

 

LGBTQ2+ are 2x as likely to experience housing instability and homelessness compared to non-LGBTQ2+. We want to know the housing experiences of our Fresno LGBTQ2+ community these past months.

 

Responses will be used for a community-wide action report and presented to the City of Fresno and Fresno County.

 

For more information contact Dr. Kat Fobear at katherinefobear@mail.fresnostate.edu

 

 

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Kampout Returns 

After having to cancel the 40th Anniversary of Kampout last year due to COVID, the Kampout Committee has begun preparations for the celebration of 40 years in the pines.  Kampout 2021, A Hike Down Memory Trail, will be held the weekend after Labor Day, September 10 through 12 at our site across the road from Texas Flat Campground. 

 

The theme this year is your favorite theme…and there are a lot to choose from.  From the Stone Age to the 60s, from under the sea to outer space, Kampout has gone to the movies, Vegas, the wild west…just about everywhere and everything has been covered…and we’d love to see your favorite on display. 

 

The cost for the weekend is still just $40.  Kampers who arrive early will be subject to a $10 a day per person charge.  The cost of admission covers your kampsite, 2 beer busts, the Progressive Kocktail Party, 2 breakfasts, Saturday dinner and much, much more. You can relax by the creek or join in all the fun and games and compete for prizes.  There’s the Yacht Regatta, Needle in the Haystack, and the always popular and hilarious Kamptown Races.  Don’t forget the Kampstravaganza Show on Saturday night where you can compete for the titles of Kamp King and Kamp Kween.  We encourage everyone to participate in this fun show. 

 

Camping in the Sierras can cost around $30 a night, just for a place to pitch your tent.  At $40 for the whole weekend, Kampout is the best bargain for your entertainment buck.  

 

This year, in accordance with government guidelines, proof of full vaccination or a negative COVID test dated 3 days prior to arrival will be required.  There will be no exceptions to this.  The health and safety of our kampers is #1 priority. 

 

So, mark your calendars...celebrate our anniversary…we hope to see you all. 

 

For more information, see our website www.kampoutfresno.com  

 

You can also visit our Facebook page and join our event. 

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National

 

Oregon set to ban lawyers from using “panic” excuse for killing LGBTQ people
David McGee

The Oregon legislature just sent a bill banning the LGBTQ panic defense to out Governor Kate Brown’s desk. The bill’s sponsors said that the passage of the bill “will send a strong and proactive message that the perpetrator of second-degree murder will not be able to excuse the crime simply based on who their victim is.” By passing the bill, Oregon would become the 14th state to ban the LGBTQ panic

defense, in which a defendant claims they attacked the victim after they found out the victim was LGBTQ. The use of the LGBTQ panic defense received nationwide attention with Matthew Shepard’s death, in 1998, when one of his killers claimed that Shepard had “come onto” him.

Source: lgbtqnation.com

NYC Pride Parade bans police from marching until at least June 2025
David McGee

Organizers of the New York Pride Parade said recently that they are banning police and other law enforcement from marching in their huge annual parade until at least 2025 in an effort to urge law enforcement members to “acknowledge their harm and to correct course” for the future. The group pointed out that “the sense of safety that law enforcement is meant to provide can instead be threatening, and at times dangerous, to those in our community who are most often targeted with excessive force and/or without reason.” The decision to ban law enforcement groups from marching in the parade is a response to racial injustice and police brutality in the wake of George Floyd’s death last year at the hands of Minneapolis police. This year’s New York Pride Parade marks the 50th anniversary of the first LGBTQ Pride parades in New York, Chicago, Los Angeles, and San Francisco, in 1970, one year after the Stonewall Inn uprising, in 1969.

Source: nbcnews.com

Ellen DeGeneres to end daytime talk show after 19th season

David McGee

 

Ellen DeGeneres recently announced she plans to end her daytime talk show after its upcoming 19th season, in 2022. In a recent interview with The Hollywood Reporter, DeGeneres said her talk show is no longer a challenge. In a written formal announcement, DeGeneres noted that after 3,000 shows her “instincts” have told her it is time to end the show. NBC reporters have said that DeGeneres’ plan to end her show is a result of the alleged toxic workplace that has been reported by former employees.

 

Source: nbcnews.com

Oklahoma Governor Blames Joe Biden for Chick-fil-A sauce shortage

David McGee

Oklahoma’s Republican Governor Kevin Stitt recently sent out a fundraising email reporting that increased gas shortages, rising gas prices, the rising cost of groceries, and Chick-fil-A’s sauce shortage are due to “Joe Biden’s radical liberal policies.” The fundraising email asks readers to donate to Stitt to “make sure Chick-fil-A never has another sauce shortage.”

Other news sources are blaming a ransomware attack on an oil pipeline for raising oil prices, and restaurants’ choices to remove bottles of condiments from tables and instead hand out small packets of condiments to be the source of the Chick-fil-A sauce shortage.

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City Crowds

Hundreds of people showed up to protest a school board meeting over a nonexistent LGBTQ policy
Bil Browning
Reposted from LGBTQNation.com

 

A Lee County School District board meeting brought hundreds of residents out to protest a policy that doesn’t exist. One man was hauled out by police after he refused to stop shouting about transgender students.

An educational poster from Equality Florida aimed at LGBTQ students kicked off the uproar after it was misrepresented and by this week’s school board meeting, the rightwing outrage machine had gone into overdrive.

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International

 
Gay Pride Celebrations

Iranians are wearing Pride flags in public to protest the brutal beheading of a gay man
Bil Browning
Reposted from LGBTQNation.com

 

Iranian LGBTQ people have started wearing Pride flags in public in a daring protest that could put them in legal jeopardy. Journalist Masih Alinejad is sharing videos of the brave activists on social media.

 

They are protesting the “honor killing” of Alireza Fazeli-Monfared, a young gay man who was trying to flee the country but was beheaded by his own brother and cousins for “shaming” the family.

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Enlighten Me

 

Souls on assignment: what’s your purpose?
Mark Lang

 

Thinking back, I can recall the religious programming of my childhood. My parents raised me with certain fear-based beliefs such as heaven and hell, good or bad, reward or punishment. As a result, my formal religious education had the basic elements of behavioral conditioning. If I behaved, there was a reward; if I misbehaved, there was a punishment.

 

I was taught to fear hell and the sins which supposedly caused a soul to go to hell. Consequently, this type of cognitive programming caused me to use religion as a way of avoiding pain and punishment. Whether that was the intent of my religious teachers or not is uncertain. My religion quickly became a haven, of sorts, to hide from my dread.

 

As I was growing up, I altered my behavior to align with the religious beliefs which were passed down to me. My motivation was selfish; I wanted to go to heaven. At that time in my childhood, I just wanted what was best for my soul. The rest of humanity could take a flying leap for all I cared.

 

Obviously, I think differently now as an adult than I did when I was a child. Not only have I physically matured, but I have also morally matured as well. My current spiritual view is to provide a useful service to the community which takes many forms. Some days I volunteer my time feeding the homeless at a local soup kitchen. Other times, I donate time working with people suffering from drug and alcohol addiction. I have spent most of my career providing counseling to those with severe mental illness.

Understandably, providing a useful service to the community doesn’t have to involve working with the most challenging situations and problems. You can serve others by simply being kind and loving. You don’t have to be a saint to do that. The opportunities are not hard to find. Compassion is desperately needed everywhere—literally everywhere!

Obviously, I didn’t have to work with the most difficult cases to show compassion. So why did I pick such challenging people to serve? Well, it has to do with the essence of my being—love. Since a loving spiritual being created me, I, too, am a loving spiritual being. Accordingly, what does a loving soul, like mine, naturally want to do? It wants to act in accord with its purpose—to ease the suffering of others. (This may not necessarily be the purpose of your soul because each person has an individual reason for living. So if your life calling doesn’t match everyone else’s, that’s alright.)

 

I’m not exactly sure how many past lives I have had. However, when the cloudy memory of an existence long forgotten tickles the corners of my soul, I have noticed a pattern. They all seem to involve a life of service and compassion. Does this mean I have never hurt anyone? Of course, it doesn’t.

 

I have done plenty of destructive things in past lives. However, my negative behaviors only happened when I strayed from my true path of serving others. It’s this pattern of showing compassion which leads me to believe my soul’s purpose has remained the same over all these incarnations. That is why I am of the opinion that after I die, my soul will get reassigned to, yet, another mission instead of just hanging out in heaven. (Have I lost you?)

 

Bear with me while I attempt to explain something most likely unexplainable. As I understand it, heaven is a place where there is no suffering. Since the purpose of my soul is to alleviate suffering, my soul has no purpose in heaven. Mine is the type of soul which needs to go where others are in pain and need love. This reasoning flies in the face of theology (and common sense for that matter). Unorthodox as it may sound, my soul needs to be out on assignment because that’s where I can do the greatest good. Get it?

Something to meditate on today. If you would like to dig a little bit more into discovering some small aspect of your soul, you might want to meditate on the following question: what is the energy within you which causes the spark of insight? (Makes you think, doesn’t it?) Put more simply, what sparks the spark inside you?

 

You don’t have to go far to find souls that are suffering. Just look around. You can start with your family. Remember, it does not have to be a biological family. It can be a family made up of your friends. Perhaps you find it difficult to show kindness to others because you believe people have not been kind to you. In that case, give yourself the kindness you need. That’s right; you can show compassion to yourself.

As you are reading this right now, breathe deeply. As you inhale, imagine spiritual light streaming down and filling your soul with life energy. Picture the rays of light as either sunlight or moonlight showering you with love. Now that you have received kindness from yourself, you are better able to pass that spiritual love on to those you meet today and every day.

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New Wellness

 

SEVEN LITTLE WORDS 

Ron Blake

 

Each late afternoon I’d hop on my blue bicycle and ride to that downtown Phoenix gym. There I saw plenty of good looking people. One of those guapo guys caught my eye. 

 

My pals had encouraged me to get back in the saddle again. It had been awhile since I was partnered. That was understandable after experiencing a stinging betrayal ending my ten-year relationship.  

 

I was ready. This one particular fella in the health club was perfection. His mannerisms. Charming smile. The toned body. He checked all the boxes. Except one. That was the problem. The unknown factor. I didn’t know if he was gay.  

Like clockwork, I’d arrive at the gym daily at the same time. So did this entrancing lad. I convinced myself this would be the day. That I’d go up to him. To start a conversation.  

 

But every day I left the gym without approaching this handsome person of interest. On the long bike ride back home I promised myself the next day would be different. My confidence grew by leaps and bounds the further I got away from that fitness center. 

That next day would come. There I was. There he was. I completed my workout. And there I went. Down those stairs once more toward nonconfrontational safety. That complicit staircase had been more than happy to lead me down and out of the building before I said what I needed to say.  

 

On this one day it was different. A now or never attitude enveloped me. I let go of my doubts. Corralling the fear racing through my tingling body. Turning and striding back up those usually imposing stairs to follow my heart. I zeroed in on him. My guy. 

It’s possible I floated toward him. Gravity didn’t seem to apply in this unknown atmosphere that I entered. Never did I take my eyes off of him as I moved in closer. I worried he might suddenly disappear. Like he’d been a mirage the whole time.  

It’s kind of odd too when I remember back. I had no plan for what I’d say to him. I only trusted the words would come. The moment would decide what came out of my mouth. If even anything. 

 

I stopped several feet from him just as he was finishing an exercise set. I gestured my intent to speak with him. He took his earbuds out and smiled. Then it was as if a Broadway director turned the klieg lights upon me. The stage was all mine. My audience of one awaited.  

I heard myself ask him, “I was just curious. Are you gay?” That was it. Seven little words. All that I managed to get out. It was something though. It was his turn to send a volley back to me.  

 

Without hesitation, a response came. He was not gay. Followed by what you might think would be awkward silence. But it wasn’t. I simply replied, “OK. If you were. I wanted to invite you to have coffee with me. To get to know you. I’ve seen you in here a few times.” 

I thanked him for being so nice about my imposition on his workout. He gently let me know it was no problem and resumed his exercising.  

 

Sure there was a sense of rejection. It didn’t last long. I walked away from this now known straight man with my head held high. As I descended the stairwell on that early evening I jumped up and triumphantly smacked one of the overhead beams. All I thought was…I did it! 

I will never wonder someday what could’ve been. If only I would’ve walked up to that guy in the gym. And said something to him. I have the answer. Maybe not the one I hoped for. But I got an answer.  

These seemingly simple moments of courage can change our lives. Whether we get rejected. Or get accepted. We will never have regrets. That is true happiness! 

This story of the bold and the beautiful is brought to you by that guy who tamed the trepidation. That guy never to rue the day is Ron Blake and you can send him seven little words (or more) at rblake5551@hotmail.com

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Uncle Barbie

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Your Intellectual Whore
"An effervescently gay advice columnist."

 

Disclaimer: Although the author of this syndicated column holds a doctorate in clinical psychology, the tongue-in-cheek advice given is for entertainment only and is not a substitute for therapy. Barbie responds to all emails...whether you deserve it or not. Send your questions to Uncle Barbie at:
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Delusional Man in Denial

 

Dear Uncle Barbie,

I feel trapped. I have been married for 43 years to a woman I love dearly. We have seven adopted children whom I adore. The problem is that I do not feel sexually attracted to my wife. I mean, I sort of was at first, but I always knew that I was not sexually interested in any woman. I like men, but I do not consider myself to be gay because I am very masculine. I just like the company of men, that’s all. Even when I was a little kid, I knew that I was attracted to other boys. I just didn’t want to admit it. So, I got married, and 43 years later, here I am. If my wife knew, she would divorce me in a second.

 

I so admire the younger, gay generation who can be free to have relationships with each other. I did not have that option when I was their age. I couldn’t do that. I would be killed. I am from an older generation where if you were exposed as a homosexual you would be accused of being a communist and driven out of town on a rail. If my boss would have found out about me, he would have fired me instantly. Of course, I have long since retired, but I still must be careful. I am on social security, now, and if anyone reports me to the authorities, I could have my social security cut. After all, the Republicans are in office. What about my military benefits? I might as well kiss them good-by if they ever found out. You know how the military is about homosexuality. They could destroy my life!

 

I have known people in this town since I was a child, and my neighbors get along with me just fine. Why should I throw all that away, just to live a homosexual lifestyle that the Holy Bible says is an abomination unto the Lord? I don’t need any more grief in my life. My life is difficult enough as it is. Deep down inside, I hate the world for forcing me to live this way. I have tried so hard to be the way I should be, and where has it gotten me? I wish people would not be so judgmental. Why can’t my church accept me for who I am? Why can’t my wife accept me? Do you think these people will ever change?

Signed, Trapped

 

Hello Trapped,

You asked if they will ever change. The real question is: will you ever change? You do not need to rely on the opinions of others to create the criteria by which you evaluate your experiences in life. Do not allow the views of others to color your perception. Instead, you can become more self-directed, and realize that the locus of assessment dwells within you. Let go of trying to meet other people’s expectations. (As an herbal Witch once told me, “Expectations are a delicious recipe for disappointment.”) The only place where you are trapped is in your own mind. Once you realize this, there will be a major shift in your thinking, and the world will look differently to you. As you shed the expectations that others try to place on you, you will also discover that you start to view other people with more tolerance and less anger. This transformation develops because you are in the process of accepting who your really are and accepting others for simply being who they are. Since you will be looking at things more realistically now, rather than distorting the picture by thinking of your situation as hopeless, you will have less need to try to manipulate others into meeting your expectations of them. The moment you stop trying to meet other people’s expectations and stop trying to get them to meet your expectations, you will feel more at peace and experience less internal conflict, as well. Ultimately, this will result in your becoming more likable because people will feel more comfortable around you.

 

I doubt if the people closest to you will disown you just because you admit to your true identity. If anyone does abandon you, then they were not really your friend in the first place because they never fully accepted you; they were only accepting the mask you were wearing, the person you were pretending to be. You will start to form new friendships with people who accept you unconditionally. If you really consider yourself to be so masculine, then I have a tough challenge for you. Stop being such a coward! Act like an adult and be masculine enough to stop hiding.

Be True to Your Inner-Animal, Barbie

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Horoscopes

by Eric Bigleon
 

ARIES (MAR 21 - APR 19)
You are more than ready to get the ball rolling and you have the energy to do it. It's hard work so take care of your health. 
 

TAURUS (APR 20 - MAY 20)
Others are playing an important role in your life now. Perhaps it's the season of giving that captivates you. There is a certain joy going on. 


GEMINI (MAY 21 - JUNE 20)
You are having to deal with long term finances at this time. You start out being pushed into action and then you gladly take control of your life. 


CANCER (JUNE 21 - JUL 22)
You're comfortable for a little while during the holidays then the floodgates open in January and there doesn't seem to be enough time for everything. Your fuse is short and you are going to have to pick & choose. 


LEO ( JUL 23 - AUG 22)
You start the holidays feeling a little lost then boom you get a sense of direction. New Years resolutions are your goal for a new you. 


VIRGO (AUG 23 - SEP 22)
What seems like a tug of war in your life gives way to new ideas. There is money to be made here so tackle work with what you know how to do. Great start to a New Year. 
 

LIBRA (SEP 23 - OCT 22) 
Homelife is more rewarding this holiday season. Enjoy it. The rest not so much as everything ends up working against you. You are going to have to deal with it. 
 

SCORPIO (OCT 23 - NOV 21)
You are enjoying the holiday, buying gifts, socializing and all. It's all about you doing what you want and life. Others seek you out here. 


SAGITTARIUS (NOV 22 - DEC 21)
You feel a lot of attentoin is focused on you good or bad. It's unerving but it doesn't last and you get back to your normal stride in life. What a trip. 


CAPRICORN (DEC 22 - JAN 19)
The focus is on you now. You are busy around the home for the holidays. Believe it or not it gets busier in January. Compassion seems to be a release now. 


AQUARIUS (JAN 20 - FEB 18) 
Working with others goeas a long way to achieving your goals they bring new ideas to the table and give a real sense of direction now. 


PISCES (FEB 19 - MAR 20)
You will probably spend too much money during theholidays but you are enjoying it and having fun shopping. You're meeting new people with fresh ideas to achieve goals. 

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