Issue II, Vol. XXVI, No. 302 | October 2020

News and happenings for, by, about and affecting the LGBT Valley.
Project of Community Link, Inc: Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Community Service Organization. 
EST. September 1995

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GRAY ALLIANCE NEWS OCTOBER 2020
John Richardson

Gray Alliance is a group for LGBT seniors, and we get together twice a month for social functions. The second Wednesday of the month at 6 pm we meet at different restaurants.

Due to the serious nature of the COVID-19 virus, all Gray Alliance events are canceled until further notice. Our age group is especially vulnerable. 

 

We have a potluck the final Sunday of the month at the First Congregational Church Fireside Room from 2-4 pm. It’s located at the south end of the church at 2131 N Van Ness Blvd in Fresno. Please note that although we are using a church facility, Gray Alliance has no religious affiliation. We will not be meeting Sunday, October 25, 2020.

 

If you have any questions, please call John Richardson at 559-260-1565.  Hope to see you soon!

YOUTH ALLIANCE NEWS OCTOBER 2020

David McGee

October is the month that normally brings some lower temperatures and possible rain to the Central Valley. So far, we’ve experienced some lower temperatures (thank the gods and goddesses for that), but we haven’t seen any rain. Is everybody doing their daily rain dances?? October is also traditionally the month of the Big Fresno Fair. It’s something we discuss every year with our LGBTQ Youth Alliance members. In the past, some of our youth were attracted to the fair and others were categorically opposed to the fair, saying it was just a waste

of time and money. But thanks to COVID-19, there is no fair this year, except for a pathetic drive-through process to get fair food. We’re going to ask our youth what they think about fair food, but we’re guessing they are not going to be very excited about piling into the car to drive to the fairgrounds when they can get corn dogs elsewhere.

The Youth Group continues to meet using Zoom teleconferencing technology. Our youth have no trouble joining the Zoom meetings. It appears the youth have more experience with the technology than the adults, and it shows throughout the Zoom meetings, when the group members mute their connection to talk to family members and then unmute as they rejoin the meeting. One of our members actually carried their laptop to the kitchen recently and made a cake while listening to the group discussion! They joined the discussion once the cake was in the oven!

Our attendance has been rather low for the month or so that we’ve been doing Zoom meetings, but our Grand Poobah, Jeffery Robinson, reminded us that when he started the Youth Group 30 years ago the attendance was often low, and we just need to be patient and allow folks to find us. We actually had a new person join our group last week! They were a little shy, not turning on their camera or even their microphone. But they sometimes added written messages, and no one had any trouble including them in our discussions. It was great, though, to have a new attendee!

November elections are just around the corner, and the Youth Group often has healthy debates over current affairs. Our current little group is rather young, but several of them watched the recent presidential and the vice presidential debates and it was clear they had thoughts about the upcoming election. Despite their youth, our group members are very concerned about the future or our nation!

Just to keep things light, we also had a discussion at our last meeting about the pets we currently own and pets we would like to own in the future. Most of our youth have cats or dogs, and we’ve seen a lot of them as they visit their humans during our meeting. Several of our youth would like to own rats, guinea pigs, or snakes in the future. We’re not sure why anybody would want to own a snake but talking about pets was interesting and everyone seemed to have a good time!

Until we can meet in person, the Fresno LGBTQ Youth Alliance will meet virtually on Friday nights, from 7 PM to 8:30 PM, on Zoom! We will be sure to publish the latest link to the space on Facebook, and now that we’ve got our Instagram account going, we’ll publish on Instagram, as well! Our Grand Poobah, Jeffery Robinson, started the Fresno LGBTQ Youth Alliance as a safe place for youth to meet. COVID-19 has changed how people meet, but with some ingenuity, our Youth Alliance can continue to meet! We urge any and all school-aged youth, to join us in our new platform, on Friday nights!

Local

 

NEWS FROM THE LIVING ROOM

Toni Harris

Fall is beginning to show itself.  The air is cooler and the trees are beginning to lose their leaves.  It is my favorite time of year here in Fresno.   

Usually with the fall season we at The Living Room are scrambling, running around to get everything ready for the 9th annual Fresno AIDS Walk.  However, like too many events this year we had to cancel the event due to COVID 19.  While the AIDS Walk is important to us as our annual fund raiser to support programs like our hot lunches that are unfunded, it is more important that we do our best to protect the health of everyone who participates in the Walk. 

Instead we will be having a virtual event to take place on Saturday October 24th.  We will send out more information via our Facebook pages (Fresno AIDS Walk) and (The Living Room) as the date gets closer.   We do hope you will take the time and join us for the event. We will soon have t-shirts and face masks on sale.  Call us for more information.  

Meanwhile we, The Living Room are continuing to offer services that meet COVID guidelines and protect our clients and staff as well. 

While the drop-in center is closed and the hot lunch program on site is temporarily suspended we do continue with services.  We now are delivering lunches once per week to clients who cannot get to our location, or for those who have a car or can access the bus or even walk here, we are giving lunches at the front door.  We are also now offering pantry to supplement your meals.  That too is dispersed at the front door.  To be eligible for pantry all we need is a referral from your medical provider, proof of ID and of course proof of diagnosis.   

We are also now doing the weekly support via zoom and we invite you to join us for that.  Information is attached.  Housing services and possible help with rent and mortgage may also be available to you if you have been diagnosed as being HIV+.   

For further information about the Virtual Walk or any of The Living Room current services you can reach us at (559) 486 1469.   

We hope you join us for the 2020 Fresno Virtual AIDS Walk. 

Meanwhile wash your hands often, maintain social distancing and wear a mask so you can be safe and be well. 

THE SOURCE LGBT+ CENTER GALA FUNDRAISER 

‘Escape to Oz’ online event 

Jim Reeves
 

The Source LGBT+ Center*, serving Tulare and Kings County, will hold an online fundraising gala on October 17, 2020, 6 to 8 pm. Themed “Escape to Oz”, guests of the gala will be emailed a link for the live “secret” broadcast, and the event will be available to the public the next day on Facebook, at The Source’s page https://www.facebook.com/thesourcelgbt/.  

Follow the yellow brick road for an evening to somewhere fantastic. What better way to celebrate and thank you for your support and fundraising than to throw THE BEST VIRTUAL FRIENDS OF DOROTHY HALLOWEEN PARTY EVER? 

Enjoy catered food, drinks, music, prizes, surprise celebrities, live entertainment, auctions, Halloween contests, AND Oz-themed escape room puzzles all from the comfort of your own home! 

Donors can bid on two celebrity virtual ‘meet and greets’ with Kristen Chenoweth or Jane Fonda. Winners will chat with Chenoweth or Fonda in personal Zoom visits. Bidding at https://paybee.io/@sourcelgbt@11  

Join us by registering now to fundraise as an individual or as part of a team! Reach a minimum of $125 per person and you're off to see the Wizard at our Gayla! Keep fundraising to earn even more amazing prizes and other "little pretties!" Sign up by clicking here (https://secure.givelively.org/donate/the-source-lgbt-center/escape-to-oz-our-first-annual-halloween-gala). 

‍No Good Deed Goes Unrewarded! 

‍Everyone who fundraises $125 or more will glam it up at our Gayla, but we're not going to stop there. Teams and individuals who fundraise more earn fabulous prizes: "T-Shirts, and Jackets, and Hoodies... Oh my! " 

It will be an event to remember.  A night to support, commemorate and celebrate with your local LGBT+ Center.  Your participation supports our core programs such as HIV services and prevention, transgender services, and our Youth Leadership Academy.  We are looking at reduced grant funding and event revenue in 2021, so part of our solution is you attending the gala.  

Nick Vargas, co-founder and Director of Development says, “I helped start and now work for The Source LGBT+ Center. It's the most rewarding job I've ever had, and I've seen lives saved and situations improved. LGBT+ friendly policies have been adopted in institutions where I never thought they would be. Please help me continue the work of The Source by participating in "Escape to Oz" on October 17, 2020. My team the Lollipop Guild has a goal of $2,000 to help fund HIV services, transgender services, suicide prevention, and youth services. Your investment in this fundraiser is an investment in me and my community.” 

For further information, see the following links: 

https://www.thesourcelgbt.org/gala 

https://www.facebook.com/thesourcelgbt/ 

https://www.facebook.com/events/308754940271634/ 

*https://www.facebook.com/thesourcelgbt/ 

#REELPRIDEATHOME: REEL PRIDE 31

Join us this weekend for #ReelPrideAtHome, our first virtual film festival in celebration of Reel Pride 31! This 72-hr virtual event is filled with a line-up of 18+ LGBTQ films to enjoy in the comfort of your own home!

This year, your support is needed now more than ever as we transition to a virtual platform for the very first time as we celebrate LGBTQ media and contribute to societal vitality through programming focused on diversity, race, culture, religion, class, gender, ability, health and age.

 

(Streaming ends at 11:59 PM Monday, October 12, 2020)

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Digital Festival Program

 

With #ReelPrideAtHome days away, we have curated a list of a few local friends who can elevate your virtual film festival experience with good food and great drinks!

National

 

NEIL GAIMAN & STEPHEN KING COME OUT SWINGING WITH FORCEFUL PUSHBACK TO J.K. ROWLING'S TRANSPHOBIA
"Your pronouns matter. You matter. You are loved."
Bil Browning
Reposted from LGBTQNation.com

 

Authors Stephen King, Neil Gaiman, and Margaret Atwood have joined with other American and Canadian writers and editors to support transgender and non-binary people in the face of Harry Potter author J.K. Rowling’s continual attacks on the community.

“We are writers, editors, journalists, agents, and professionals in multiple forms of publishing,” the wrote in a statement. “We believe in the power of words. We want to do our part to help shape the curve of history toward justice and fairness.”

continue reading at LGBTQNation.com

PRIDE MEDIA OWNER ADAM LEVIN DONATES TO ANTI-LGBTQ REPUBLICANS AGAIN

The owner of LGBTQ legacy publications The Advocate and Out has broken his 2018 pledge to stop donating money to anti-LGBTQ Republicans.
Daniel Villareal
Reposted from LGBTQNation.com

 

Adam Levin, the owner of Oreva Capital, the parent company of Pride Media—the media brand representing LGBTQ legacy publications The Advocate and Out, has broken his 2018 pledge never to donate money to anti-LGBTQ Republicans.

According to OpenSecrets, a website that tracks political donations, Levin, who is not gay, gave $2,800 each to two Republican Senate incumbents during Pride month this year. He donated $2,800 to North Carolina Sen. Thom Tillis and Montana Sen. Steve Daines in June. Both senators have well-documented anti-LGBTQ records.

continue reading at LGBTQNation.com

AMY CONEY BARRETT BLASTED FOR ANTI-LGBTQ+ TERM "SEXUAL PREFERENCE" 

David McGee

President Trump’s Supreme Court nominee Amy Coney Barrett spent much of her second day in confirmation hearings before the Senate Judiciary Committee trying to avoid stating how she would rule on marriage equality, abortion rights, and the Affordable Care Act.

 

She also used the term “sexual preference” in saying she would not discriminate against LGBTQ+ people.

 

Senator Mazie Hiromo of Hawaii checked Barrett on this usage later in the hearing. He stated, “‘Sexual preference’ is an offensive and outdated term. It is used by anti-LGBTQ activists to suggest that sexual orientation is a choice. It is not. Sexual orientation is a key part of a person’s identity.” Barrett later apologized for her use of the term and said she meant no offense.

 

Democratic Senators and LGBTQ+ activists have voiced their concerns that if confirmed, Barrett will be part of the conservative arm of the Supreme Court that is discussing reversing decisions about marriage equality, abortion rights, and affordable health care.

 

Source: advocate.com

BLACK, QUEER, MUSLIM CANDIDATE COULD MAKE HISTORY IN OKLAHOMA

David McGee

Progressive Mauree Turner, running for the Oklahoma state House, is hoping to become the first Muslim lawmaker in Oklahoma history. Turner secured an upset win in the June primary, defeating the Democratic incumbent Rep. Jason Dunnington. She will face Republican

Kelly Barlean, a former attorney and Washington state legislator, in the November election.

 

Turner’s progressive platform is centered around criminal justice reform, expanding access to affordable health care, and pushing for a higher minimum wage.

 

Although the state of Oklahoma is predominately Republican, Turner’s district, which includes Oklahoma City, leans solidly Democratic, giving her a good shot at the seat.

Source: huffpost.com

LGBTQ+ TWITTER USERS TOOK OVER THE #PROUDBOYS HASHTAG

David McGee

Donald Trump’s admonition to a white supremacy group, The Proud Boys, to “stand back and stand by” during the First Presidential Debate, empowered LGBTQ+ Twitter users to take over the hashtag ProudBoys and make it an LGBTQ+ affirming Twitter site, with images of out and proud gay men (and a lot of couples) living their best and most authentic lives.

 

LGBTQ+ Twitter users have declared the takeover to be “absolutely queer and wonderful.”

 

Source: pride.com

ERIC TRUMP ISN'T GAY (THANK GOD)

David McGee
 

During a recent interview with the TV news show, Fox and Friends, Donald Trump’s son, Eric, seemingly came out as part of the LGBTQ+ community. Asked about the supposed demographic of secret LGBTQ+ Trump supporters, Eric stated, “The LGBT community, they are incredible. And you should see how they come out in full force for my father every single day. I’m part of that community, and we love the man.”

Because Eric said he was a “part” of the queer community, many people took his comment to mean that he was coming out of the closet. And considering the Donald Trump administration’s track record of attacking LGBTQ+ rights, many were rightfully upset. In the aftermath of the on-air gaffe, Eric has now clarified that he is not queer and therefore not a part of the LGBTQ+ community. LGBTQ+ spokespersons nationwide have sighed with relief.


Source: pride.com

International

 

EGYPTIAN POLICE USING SOCIAL MEDIAT TO TRAP AND RAPE SUSPECTED LGBTQ PEOPLE
Daniel Villareal
Reposted from Newsweek.com


Egyptian police and the country's National Security Agency have allegedly used social media to entrap suspected LGBTQ people, place false charges against them and indefinitely detain them while subjecting them to physical abuse, rape and medical neglect.

 

The arrests seem to be part of a larger ongoing crackdown against LGBTQ citizens that violate the country's constitution and several international human rights treaties that Egypt has agreed to.

continue reading at Newsweek.com

BELGIUM'S NEW DEPUTY PRIME MINISTER IS A TRANSGENDER GYNECOLOGIST
Bil Browning
Reposted from LGBTQNation.com


Petra De Sutter, a Green Party member of parliament, has been chosen as Belgium’s Deputy Prime Minister. The transgender gynecologist will be the minister for public administration and public enterprises.

The country has been without a ruling government for 16 months. The new government will consist of a seven-party coalition.

continue reading at LGBTQNation.com

JAPAN OPENS OLYMPIC PRIDE HOUSE IN TOKYO AHEAD OF SUMMER GAMES

Japan's first permanent LGBTQ center is opening up ahead of next summer's Olympics.

Juwan J. Holmes 
Reposted from LGBTQNation.com

Pride House Tokyo, the first permanent LGBTQ center ever established in the five-island nation, opened this Sunday, intentionally on International Coming Out Day.

The Pride House – also entitled “Tokyo Legacy” – was created in partnership with Japanese authorities and Pride House International, in hopes of “taking advantage” of the upcoming 2020 Summer Olympics and Paralympics, postponed until summer 2021.

continue reading at LGBTQNation.com

14 COUNTRIES BAND BEING TRANSGENDER

A new international report includes the U.S. as a country where transgender rights are stagnating - similar to Guatemala, Hungary, and Mongolia.
Alex Bollinger
Reposted from LGBTQNation.com

 

Fourteen countries ban people from being transgender, according to a new report from the International Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Association (ILGA).

In the organization’s new Trans Legal Mapping Report, researchers looked into legal bans on wearing clothes that don’t conform to one’s sex assigned at birth and they found that 14 countries have them: Brunei, Gambia, Indonesia, Jordan, Kuwait, Lebanon, Malawi, Malaysia, Nigeria, Oman, South Sudan, Tonga, and the United Arab Emirates. Iran, the report notes, has a more “vaguely worded” ban on being transgender whose “impact is no less severe.”

continue reading at LGBTQNation.com

Enlighten Me

 

BREATHE IN LOVE AND BREATHE OUT COMPASSION
Mark Lang

 

The news is full of stories of heartache and human misery. Stories are reported almost daily of earthquakes, tornados, floods, hurricanes, wars, and more. You can hardly read a headline or watch the television without having tales of tragedies thrown in your face. It is easy to feel overwhelmed and helpless. But do not become complacent and jaded.

When you hear of the pain of others, you may find yourself wondering what you can do to help them. Although you may not be able to go to them to render aid physically, there is an act of empathy you can do to send them positive energy.

Try breathing in love from the universe and breathing out compassion for those who suffer. You may think, “What good will that do?” Well, for one thing, it teaches you to be a more compassionate person. Every time you breathe compassion to someone, you are expanding your capacity for empathy. It also gives you a greater sense of emotional stability because you do not feel so helpless when you hear about human misery. The positive energy you breathe out to people could spiritually benefit them on a metaphysical level. Perhaps their distress will slightly decrease when they receive enough positive energy—in whatever form.

You can view this empathy breathing exercise as a form of prayer if you like. It does not matter what you call it. The important thing is to focus on loving other people and doing something about it. Talking about love is not the same as doing something loving. Breathing may seem passive, but it is not. Breathing is action, and breathing empathy to those in need is one way to practice love.

Say, for instance, you hear on the national news that a young person in another state died in a car accident. Now the surviving family and friends are in a lot of emotional pain. Instead of just turning away and doing something else to take your mind off of the sad news, you can take that opportunity to breathe compassion to the people who are in mourning.

Furthermore, what if your coworker is dumping all her emotional baggage on you? You know that you cannot solve her problems for her. However, you can be empathetic and listen to her concerns. As you do, breathe in her pain. Let your love for humanity convert that pain into positive energy. Then, as you are still listening to her, breathe out compassion.

Maybe it is an international situation where people are starving or have some horrible disease. If there is a relief fund set up, you could donate some money to help them. On the other hand, you can also breathe spiritual relief to them with your loving thoughts. It only takes a minute of your time, and it can make the difference between being compassionate or complacent.

By the way, this exercise in sympathy can also work to reduce and control the anger you feel toward others. Imagine that your child comes home from school with an unsatisfactory grade. Your desire for your son or daughter to get a much higher grade could very easily lead to feelings of anger.

Acting on this anger could result in a verbal confrontation with your child. You might yell, “You should know better than this. I expect more from you. What is wrong with you? I didn’t raise you to be an idiot!” These hurtful words will not strengthen the bond you have with your child. It will only drive a wedge between the two of you.

What if instead of displaying anger, you took a few moments first to gather your thoughts before you spoke. (Okay, let’s call it a “timeout.” We can work with that overused catchword, can’t we?) If you use the empathy breathing technique, you could put yourself in the other person’s shoes and better understand the situation.

It is entirely possible that in spite of your child’s best efforts, the grade still fell short of parental expectations. Or a more likely explanation might be the schoolwork or exam was not a proper vehicle by which to accurately measure your child’s learned knowledge. (This’s usually the case.)

Understanding leads to compassion. Once you know a little bit more about the reason for the low grade, you can bring yourself to an emotional state of peace. It is at this points you can take that slow deep breath and exhale compassion to your child. That type of empathy leads to a stronger parent-child relationship.

Something to meditate on today. When you get home tonight and watch the news, be sensitive to the suffering of others. As you learn about their struggles, image being in their situation. Feel for them. As you do this, breathe in love and exhale compassion. The more you do this, the more compassionate you will become. And the world sure could use more compassionate people right now.

New Wellness

 

THANKS FOR THE BEER

 

I’m usually a jeans and T-shirt guy. One night a few years ago, I made an exception. I sported some dapper duds for an upscale holiday party. A sweater and slacks. I excitedly arrived at the suburban desert home of this friend of a friend. This would be my first time at a soiree. Inside a mansion. 

 

The ascot adorned host warmly embraced me and introduced me to some of his Dolce and Gabbana guests. Then he eagerly directed me to the sumptuous display of food and drink. That was OK with me. This Polish partygoer was ready for some good eats and ice-cold suds. 

 

I approached the beverage area and was courteously greeted by a bartender with a smart appearance. I initially didn’t hear what he said. Instead I was drawn to the sound of his elegant British accent. It was like being greeted by the butler from Downton Abbey. A dash of distinction for sure.  

 

I politely requested a beer. It’s then as if a Rube Goldberg series of events began with my breach of etiquette. The needle on the record player was harshly jerked across the vinyl record. Burl Ives’ Holly Jolly Christmas came to an abrupt ending. The Grey Poupon stopped being passed. Tongues wagged.  

 

My ears were met with, “I’m terribly sorry sir. I don’t believe we have any…beer.” He seemed uneasy to say the word. Beer. He even whispered it. Like it was strictly forbidden to speak aloud. 

 

It made me want to say the word repeatedly. Just to watch him grimace. Beer. Beer. Beer. 

 

My buddy nudged me. He nervously laughed and let me know that this is not that kind of party. All while gritting his teeth and suggesting I just get a martini, sidecar, or Rob Roy.  

 

But I didn’t want one of those. I wanted a beer. So I asked the mortified mixologist if he could please just check around for me. Any beer would be perfection. 

 

The Rube chain wasn’t done yet. More pearl-clutching from those within earshot of my cheekiness. 

 

The bloke leaned over to the monkey-suited wine steward and made the inquiry for me. The snooty sommelier quickly crushed my hopes for any lagers, ales, or stouts. Just fine wine and top-shelf spirits I was informed.  

 

Alright. It wasn’t the end of the world. I could take a mixed drink. I only persisted because I could see how flummoxed the gentlemen became with my lunch-pail request. A little sadistic tomfoolery on my part to deck the halls. 

 

But before I could ask for a Harvey Wallbanger; there arose such a clatter. It was some fella who had some of the things that to me really do matter. Two beers. Hello Donner and Blitzen. He heard me get rejected by the barkeep and wine merchant.  

 

Turns out this guy was the cousin of the host. He was wise to the ways of the high society gala. Beer was not in demand at this fancy party. So he brought along two six-packs for a moment like that. 

 

The bootlegger and I washed down some crisp delicious brews as we mingled with the multitude of attendees. We drank heartily from our longneck twist-off bottles. Compliments of our creative speakeasy. 

 

But the most important part of that night was about giving thanks for who I am now. There was a time I would have tried to put on airs in the midst of all these fat-cats. To fit in. Not anymore.  

 

Sure. I’m well educated and have an MPA. But I’d rather talk about an IPA. I am a blue-collar guy who enjoys a variety of refreshing chilled beers. I’m good with that.  

 

I am very thankful this holiday season to finally be comfortable in life with just being me. Cheers to finding you and being happy with you. Happy Thanksgiving and party on Plymouth Rockers! 

 

This Mayflower Compact is brought to you by that guy of frothy fun. That guy with a mug of merriment is Ron Blake and he can be found with his riveting rosy stories at rblake5551@hotmail.com. 

Uncle Barbie

 

Your Intellectual Whore
"An effervescently gay advice columnist."

 

Disclaimer: Although the author of this syndicated column holds a doctorate in clinical psychology, the tongue-in-cheek advice given is for entertainment only and is not a substitute for therapy. Barbie responds to all emails...whether you deserve it or not. Send your questions to Uncle Barbie at:
askunclebarbie@aol.com

CEREBRAL COUNSEL AT AN AFFORDABLE PRICE

 

Dear Uncle Barbie,

I currently see a therapist to help me with depression and anxiety and just dealing with life. She has good points, such as emphasizing how thought processes can influence emotions, and I’ve had some good sessions with her. But I haven’t come out as a gay man to her because she seems old-fashioned/traditional/unimaginative in some ways. If this impression is correct, what would I be better off doing: getting a more gay-friendly therapist in place of this one—even though they might be weak in some of the places where she is strong—or supplementing the old therapist with a new one?

Signed, Therapeutically Challenged

 

Hello Therapy Challenge,

I do not think that there is any great need to change your therapist, right now. After all, you haven’t even told her, yet, that your sexual orientation is gay. So therefore, you do not know what kind of reaction she will have. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Remember that the American Psychological Association (APA) has rules of ethics that all licensed psychologists are required to follow. Those ethics include showing respect for gay/lesbian clients.

 

If the therapist is not licensed (and therefore, not under the guidelines of the APA), then they may not follow the same code of ethics. An example of this would be Christian therapy found within a particular church (such as pastoral counseling). Some (not all) of those therapists may be less than accepting of your “gayness.” The only way to find out for sure what your therapist thinks of your being gay is to ask her. Go ahead and talk to her about your concern on this issue. It sounds like it is going to be a good session! Let me know how it goes.

A Reservoir of Understanding, Barbie

 

 ___

TRUE LOVE

 

Dear Barbie,
Is there any definitive way to tell whether your love is true or if you are simply in love with the idea of being in love?
Signed, On the Rebound

 

Hello Rebound,
Being in love is a very idealistic notion. My own personal beliefs are that being in love is something very special, beyond infatuation and lust. When you care about someone, and love him or her, their happiness and wellbeing is as important as your own. It is something that takes a long time to build. Think about the love you have for friends and family that is not something that happened instantaneously. Ask yourself, “Do I like myself when I’m with my partner?” Your answer will tell you how compatible you are with your partner.
May Your Love Rebound, Barbie

Horoscopes

By Eric Biglione
 

ARIES (Mar 21 - Apr 19)
No matter how much you try you can't take on everything. Pick and choose, you'll be happier and less stressed. 

TAURUS (Apr 20 - May 20)
The ball is in your court put it to good use or you will pay for it later. Don't make promises that you can't keep. You have a very keen mind this month. 

GEMINI (May 21 - June 21)
You are going nowhere fast. Hold your horses and this confusion will pass. Then a plan becomes clear for you to move forward. 

CANCER (June 22 - Julu 22)
Your nerves are fried and nothing makes sense. Try to relax and concentrate on what you want to do. Be an introvert for now. 

LEO (July 23 - Aug 22)
You may not feel you are getting the attention you deserve so pat yourself on the back and all will fall into place in due time.

VIRGO (Aug 23 - Sep 22)
You are as stable as you can get. Think outside the lines and really see what you can accomplish. 

LIBRA (Sep 23 - Oct 22)
A lot of frustration. It's time to reexamine everything then all becomes clear in November. You have some obstacles to overcome that require some patience. 

SCORPIO (Oct 23 - Nov 21) 
Even though there are some surprises in your life, you can overcome any difficulties by tackling one problem at a time. 

SAGITTARIUS (Nov 22 - Dec 21)
Others keep bringing up the past when you want to move forward. Try to be tactful until everyone works through this 

CAPRICORN (Dec 22 - Jan 19)
Boy, life isn't letting up on you. There is a transformation going which will become clear down the road. Listen to others and try not to be judgmental. 

AQUARIUS (Jan 20 - Feb 18)
Even though there have been some misunderstandings now is not the time to act. Wait until November when everything clears up and you can make plans. 

PISCES (Feb 19 - Mar 20)
You are probably the only one who knows what is going on. You know what changes you need to make in your life and you make them. Very attractive time for you. 

 

Not To Be Missed

Halloween Drive-Throughs

LA

Los Angeles has several Halloween drive-through events going on through Halloween night, such as Haunt’oween LA, with lighted arches you can drive through, Halloween Drive-In, a movie drive-in event in Griffith Park, and Night of the Jack, a drive-through event with thousands of light-up jack-o-lanterns, located in the Santa Monica Mountains. For details and pricing, go to
timeout.com/los-angeles/things-to/do.

Silver Creek Spooktacular

San Jose

ClubSport San Jose and Silver Creek Sportsplex are having a Spooktacular event on Thursday, October 29 from 4-8:15 PM, located at 800 Embedded Way, San Jose, CA, 95138. Spooktacular is a children’s event with games, crafts, and candy, to be held in the parking lot. Monster Mash is a dance party for families. And Spooky Skate is a scary skate session. Each activity has limited number of tickets sold in order to maintain social distancing. Individuals aged 12 and older will be required to wear masks. For more information, Google San Jose Spooktacular 2020 or go to eventbrite.com for San Jose.

Halloween Events in the Fresno Area

Crews Magic

 

A car wash located at 7213 N. Ingram, in Fresno, is transforming its car wash into a Haunted Car Wash from 6:30-9 PM, Thursday through Sunday, until October 31. Think rolling fog and strobe lights, and employees decked out in masks. Expect a few surprises! Entry (which includes a car wash) is $9.99.

Sanger’s Hobbs Grove

Open again this year, although the haunted house and hayride are closed. The Haunted Forest has been expanded and is open weekends through Halloween. Tickets must be purchased online at hobbsgrove.com.

Raisin Hell Ranch 

Madera


A haunted corn maze with two attractions— Hollywood Horror and Chaos. Guests are required to wear face masks and maintain 6-feet social distancing at all times. The attraction is open Wednesday to Sundays through Halloween.

Tickets are available at raisnhellranch.com.

The Madera 2 Drive-In

Featuring double feature movies during the month of October, such as Halloween and Halloween 4, October 16-22, and The Evil Dead and Paranormal Activity, October 30-November 5. First screening starts at 7:10 PM. Tickets are $10.

 

Events

2020 Fresno AIDS Walk - Virtual Edition

Join us on ZOOM!!!! 

Meeting link below 

 

https://zoom.us/j/94678694218?pwd=dWNLL2Q1REFKUGMweVduT1lwRTNqUT09 

We are happy to announce a new social support group for the Transgender Community! We look forward to seeing you Thursday, October 29th at 6pm on Zoom.

Meeting ID: 893 9849 1611

Password: 371456

Transgender Day of Remembrance 

 

An event to memorialize and honor our transgender siblings who have lost their lives

this year due to violence and transphobia. 

 

Save the Date: Friday, November 20, 2020 at 6 p.m. 

 

Zoom link will be provided once your RSVP: 

bit.ly/TDOR2020

 

 

All are welcome! If you have any questions or need special accommodations,

 please email estevanp@csufresno.edu by Wednesday, November 18, 2020.

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