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Issue VII, Vol. XXVI, No. 307 | March 2021

News and happenings for, by, about and affecting the LGBT Valley.
Project of Community Link, Inc: Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Community Service Organization. 
EST. September 1995

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Gray Alliance News March 2021
John Richardson

Gray Alliance is a group for LGBT seniors, and we get together twice a month for social functions. The second Wednesday of the month at 6 pm we meet at different restaurants.

Due to the serious nature of the COVID-19 virus, all Gray Alliance events are canceled until further notice. Our age group is especially vulnerable. 

 

We have a potluck the final Sunday of the month at the First Congregational Church Fireside Room from 2-4 pm. It’s located at the south end of the church at 2131 N Van Ness Blvd in Fresno. Please note that although we are using a church facility, Gray Alliance has no religious affiliation. We will not be meeting Sunday, March 28, 2021.

 

If you have any questions, please call John Richardson at 559-260-1565.  Stay Safe!

Youth Alliance News March 2021

David McGee
 

Spring has sprung in the Central Valley! Fruit trees are blooming all over the place!

 

Spring showers are coming almost weekly right now, bringing much needed rain! Please keep up those rain dances to bring more rain to our valley and state! And what is happening to our LGBTQ Youth Alliance members during this beautiful spring weather? They’re mostly stuck indoors, using remote study technology to attend classes!

One of our youth group members shared in group that since their theater class has been rehearsing a play all semester via Zoom, the class was excited to meet at one of their school’s outdoor playing fields to rehearse recently. Unfortunately, it happened to be blustery day, and the sky suddenly opened up, dumping rain, ruining their efforts to meet! The idea to meet outside was clever enough! The teacher will just have to watch the weather forecast before planning another rehearsal! With the current talk of reopening schools, perhaps the class will be able to meet on stage soon, with modifications for social distancing, of course!

 

Our Youth Alliance group continues to meet online, using Zoom as our electronic platform! We’ve all pretty much got the hang of using Zoom by now! Of course, the youth are much more accomplished at using Zoom! They add clever face pages or change their backgrounds. They use electronic messaging to contact each other covertly during the group meeting. But quite simply, everyone can see when they’re cracking up to a secret joke! The adults, on the other hand, feel lucky to just get into the meeting! They don’t mess with their connection once they join the group!

At a recent meeting, the subject of food came up, and our Grand Poobah, Jeffery Robinson, asked the group what dish their mom makes that they most enjoy. We got the usual kinds of answers, such as lasagna or spaghetti, but we also got Mexican-American favorites, like fruit-filled tamales, birria, and tortas. The adults had a harder time remembering back to the days of yore. Jeffery’s answer was the funniest! He reported that he always hated his mom’s cooking, so he learned to cook for himself at a young age! Way to go, Jeffery!

 

We know that some of our youth group members can already cook, as well! They’ve talked about meals they’ve made. And we got to experience one of our members make a cake during a youth group meeting! They took us along to the kitchen on their laptop as they mixed the cake, and we all returned to the kitchen later when they took the cake out of the oven! Unfortunately, we didn’t get to lick the spoon! But the experience was one that we wouldn’t have been able to experience without electronic wizardry!

The Youth Alliance used to meet in person in a meeting room at the Big Red Church. Until we can meet once again in person, the Fresno LGBTQ Youth Alliance will continue to meet virtually on Friday nights, from 7 PM to 8:30 PM, on Zoom! We will be sure to publish the meeting number and the password for our Zoom meeting on Facebook, and now that we’ve got our Instagram account going, we’ve published on Instagram, as well! COVID-19 has changed how people meet, but with its youthful ingenuity, our Youth Alliance will continue to meet! We urge any and all school-aged youth to join us on our new platform, on Friday nights!

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People Living with HIV: AIDS Drug Assistance Program (ADAP) enrollment and easy recertification (available evenings and weekends too).  ADAP helps cover cost of HIV meds and covers private health insurance premiums. We also offer personalized pharmacy services and co-pay assistance for those with private health insurance. Ryan White services, food pantry, patient advocacy, education, social groups and peer-support. Our HIV program is run by people living with HIV. LGBTQ+ and straight people on staff. Services provided regardless of immigration status.

 

Email HIV@thesourcelgbt.org or call 559-429-4277.  

 

www.thesourcelgbt.org/hiv

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News From The LIVINGROOM
Toni Harrison

In 1995 and 1996 Fresno experienced an increasing number of HIV/AIDS cases, unfortunately the services were sparse, if at all. 

While the numbers grew it became apparent that people needed supportive services.  It was through that need that The Living Room, A Project of Westcare began. 

What started as a get together, pot luck to share experiences in the living rooms of those who were infected grew quickly to where there was the need for more services.  It is with that in mind that The Living Room (TLR) began.   

Twenty five years ago, on April 1, 1996, The Living Room, under the stewardship of Jules Mastro, opened its doors with help from Sister Catherine, a nun who worked out of St. Agnes, who donated $500 each month, to help with expenses.   

While TLR started out small, renting just an office for support groups by the year 2000 it had grown to serving over 450 individuals who were infected.  It was a difficult time because of the lack of medication to help curb the growth in the body and the horrific stigma attached to being diagnosed.   

Clients were dying on a sometimes daily basis, the loss of life was heartbreaking and the progress of the disease in both physical and emotional health continued on.   

In 2003, Jules Mastro retired and The Living Room merged with WestCare, California.  WestCare has supported the efforts of TLR to raise awareness, increase knowledge and education and test anyone for HIV.   

We continue on, even during this pandemic, to try our best to help reduce new cases of the virus and keep our clients in medical care so they can remain healthy and live a long life.  We have come a long way from mourning someone to celebrating their ongoing health.  We now provide services at our new location, 1330 E Olive Ave, just outside the Tower district hub on the corner of Olive and San Pablo. 

While the drop in center remains closed, due to the pandemic, we are available for HIV testing, case management services and possible housing services, including assistance with rent or mortgage payments, if you qualify.  We currently are also offering lunches and pantry services.  Lunch is available every Thursday and distributed to those we serve via a “sack lunch” through the front door, pantry is the second and fourth Thursday and distributed the same way.   

Please call us to see if you qualify for assistance and we will work towards assisting you.  Our number is (559) 486-1469.   

 

Be safe, be well!

 

   

A Trans Experience
Ashens Limon
Reposted from TheKnowFresno.org


Being a transgender person has never been easy, there’s no question about that. But people who are not transgender themselves don’t always understand why. There’s the dysphoria, the struggles with acceptance, constantly being invalidated in your own community and family, and countless other complicated issues. Although I cannot speak on all the issues transgender people face, I can speak on my personal struggles with being a transgender male in our current times.

DISCRIMINATION

 

Discrimination is easily the most common thing you hear about whether you’re transgender, BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, and people of color), and/or disabled.

 

I remember when I was in seventh-grade health class, I had a teacher tell me that he wasn’t going to talk about LGBTQ-related things because of his religion. I never asked him to; I never even mentioned my sexuality or my gender to him, but he felt it necessary to tell me that he doesn’t want to talk about people like me. 

 

Another time in the eighth grade, my PE teacher told me that he wouldn’t call me by my name because it’s not what’s on my birth certificate. He then lied to me and told me that my mom emailed him and said to only call me by my birth name. My mom has never had issues with my name and she has never felt the need to reach out to a teacher about it. 

Even just last year, the principal of my school told me and another trans student that we were not allowed to use the male dressing room for theatre. He tried to force us to use the staff bathroom on the other side of the campus because it’s the only gender-neutral bathroom in the school. I know my rights and didn’t listen and continued to use the correct dressing room. I don’t care how a 40-year-old feels about my genitalia. 

 

These aren’t even close to all of the stories of mine where I faced discrimination, but these are the ones that stuck with me the most because of how ignorant someone has to be to feel that concerned about me and who I am.

 

PATRONIZATION

 

I’m not sure if trans women and non-binary people face this as well, but from personal experience, I can say that patronization has been a big issue for many trans males. People have a habit of speaking down to us and even talking to us like an animal or a baby. I can understand that people are trying to be nice and supportive, but it can be patronizing, and just uncomfortable. 

We get called a lot of things like “sweet little tiny boys” or we’re told how twinky we look by cishet (cisgender and heterosexual) people. Calling us cute and being told we need to be protected like babies feels super condescending. Personally, because I’m very short and small in stature, and don’t like to fall into toxic masculine stereotypes, I’ve been told things like this so often that it feels like it’s become a part of how people see me. I feel like I’m only seen as a helpless young trans boy who cries himself to sleep every night because he’s just so sad and needs to be protected. 

 

Sometimes, when you tell people this, it just makes them uncomfortable. They will get upset and will argue they’re “only trying to be nice” and “validate” you, but they are doing the opposite. It’s not validating at all; you are treating us like we aren’t normal guys, or normal people at that.

 

GENDER DYSPHORIA

 

Gender dysphoria is very different for many people who experience it. Some may feel their dysphoria is constantly weighing down on them, or maybe it’s just a constant murmur in the back of their mind. Some don’t feel much at all. In my own experience, I have had pretty bad dysphoria. Dysphoria isn’t just “I hate my body and want to cut my body parts off” like what most cisgender people think; it’s way more complicated than that. 

 

For a long time, I tried to hide the fact that I love Katy Perry because she’s seen as an artist for girls. Although that’s a terrible, sexist way to think; that’s how dysphoria can warp your mind. Just recently, I deleted a post talking about the music I like because I’m scared the type of music I listen to and how I talk about music will be enough to out me. In eighth grade, I cut off my eyelashes because I felt like they made me look too feminine. Sometimes, I would be rude to people because, as sad as it is, that’s how a lot of cisgender guys around me acted so I tried to mimic them. 

 

Even today, I refuse to wear any pink because of the way colors have been gendered in modern society. I’m afraid if I wear pink, I’ll get misgendered. I also can’t wear just a T-shirt; I have to be wearing a flannel, jacket, or sweatshirt – anything that can cover me. I only wear black jeans because I think my legs are curvy. I can’t dye my hair. I can’t wear makeup. I can only wear Vans platform shoes. I can’t talk about my favorite cartoons. 

 

There are so many made-up rules that my dysphoria makes me follow and it’s hard to live like a normal person when you’re always paranoid about passing, or afraid that people will treat you like an imposter. 

 

Again, not all transgender people feel this way. Some don’t care if they pass or not, but for me, it’s a constant struggle.

COMMUNITY CONFLICTS

 

Discourse in the transgender community is unbelievably prevalent, like that between people who medically transition versus people who don’t. No matter what the fight is, it’s usually completely arbitrary. Instead of fighting with each other and blaming each other for issues we all struggle with, we need to get down to the real issues. Our transgender women of color are being murdered at staggering rates, our youth are homeless, our government is trying to pass horrendous laws regarding our students in their locker rooms. We need to fight for each other, not against each other. No real progress is going to happen if we can’t get on the same page.

We as a community face horrendous treatment by each other, others, and ourselves. But just because I told you about the bad things doesn’t mean our lives are terrible. Throughout my struggles, I’ve always been proud of who I am. I love who I am and I love my community despite its flaws. I hope that one day our fight against oppression is successful and we won’t have to worry about dressing rooms, murders, or off-handed comments. We are here and we will fight for the generations and generations of transgender kids like us.

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National

 
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The Biden administration is planning to push for allowing gender-neutral markers on federal IDs
Juwan J. Holmes

Reposted from LGBTQNation.com
 

The Biden administration has reportedly been in talks with the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) about undertaking a plan that will allow agencies of the United States government to allow an “X” option as a gender marker on federal-issued documents.

That would mean transgender, non-binary and intersex Americans could get a gender-neutral mark on U.S. passports, Social Security cards, and other forms of identification issued on the federal level.

continue reading at LGBTQNation.com

Equality Act Introduced in the Senate
Matt Tracy
Reposted from GayCityNews.com

 

Lawmakers in the Senate on February 23 introduced the Equality Act, a comprehensive bill that would amend the 1964 Civil Rights Act and related federal laws to ban discrimination against LGBTQ individuals.

The legislation, introduced in the House February 18, would firmly establish comprehensive protections in areas including housing, employment, public education, public accommodations, federal funding, credit, and the jury system and expand on the Supreme Court ruling issued in June of last year. The latest version of the bill, most recently passed the lower chamber in 2019, comes weeks after President Joe Biden issued executive orders earlier this year reaffirming and broadening protections for queer people.

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Law Books

Ban on so-called gay & trans “panic” defenses will become law in Virginia
Juwan J. Holmes
Reposted from LGBTQNation.com

 

“Panic” defenses that are used to excuse violent crimes against LGBTQ people because the perpretator “discovered” their gender identity or sexual orientation are set to be outlawed in the Commonwealth of Virginia.

Delegate Danica Roem (D) introduced House Bill 2132 last month, and it passed the House of Delegates. It went to the state Senate, where it passed by a vote of 23-15 on February 25 with an amendment attached, and was sent back to the House. The House voted to approve the amendment in a 58-39 vote on February 26, making the proposed bill law.

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Biden: US Will Reach 100 Million Shots Ahead of Schedule and Millions of Stimulus Checks Go Out

David McGee
 

At the kickoff of his “Help is Here” tour, on Monday, March 15, 2021, President Biden announced that the US will reach his goal of administering 100 million Covis-19 vaccine shots ahead of schedule. Biden pledged before taking office that his administration would doll out more than 100 million shots in his first 100 days of office. As of March 15, the nation has been averaging 2.4 million doses per week.

Meanwhile, millions of stimulus deposits were made to Americans’ bank accounts over the weekend. The US Treasury Department announced that the long-awaited stimulus package will be rolling out to millions of Americans in the coming weeks.

Source: msn.com.

The Vatican’s Decree on Same-Sex Unions Could Drive Catholics from Church

David McGee
 

The Vatican made a statement on Monday, March 15, 2021, which was approved by the Pope, stating that Catholic priests cannot bless same-sex unions because God “cannot bless sin.” The decree was released by the church’s orthodoxy office in response to a question about same-sex unions.

Members of the Catholic LGBTQ community and theology experts said that the decree is damaging to the church’s ever-evolving congregation. Marianne Duddy-Burke, the executive editor of Dignity USA, an organization focused on LGBTQ rights and the Catholic Church, called the statement, “deeply saddening and hurtful.”

 

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Wyoming Still Doesn’t Have Hate Crime Legislation 23 Years after Mathew Shepard’s Murder

David McGee
 

Mathew Shepard was killed in a brutal hate crime in 1998. His parents fought for hate crime legislation for years after his death. Yet, 23 years after his murder, the state of Wyoming still does not have legislation that recognizes or seeks to prevent hate crimes. The Wyoming legislature, currently under a Republican supermajority in both houses, has housed (or refused to pass) any hate crime legislation, despite attempts to create it.

The most recent attempt, House Bill 218, introduced two weeks ago by Representative Pat Sweeney, was shelved by the Judiciary Committee for the remainder of the year, so that “all stakeholders involved” could give input. The shelving of the bill means that Wyoming, along with Arkansas and South Carolina, will be the only three states in the union that do not have hate crime legislation.

Mathew Shepard’s mother, Judy Shepard, who has become an advocate for hate legislation nationwide, has commented, “[The legislature] could have fixed [the problem] 20 years ago, but they chose not to.”

Source: lgbtqnation.com

California Senator Looks to Overturn “Walking While Trans” Law

David McGee
 

State Senator Scott Weiner, joined NBC News Now on March 12, 2021, to discuss his plan for repealing what has been referred to as the “Walking While Trans” Law. Weiner reported that the law, which came about in the early 1990’s during a period where California was trying to reduce drug sales and prostitution, was originally written to target “loitering for the purpose of prostitution.” The law only requires police to consider the way a person dresses or walks in order to arrest them for prostitution. Weiner stated that the law allows police officers to use what is clearly “profiling” techniques to arrest individuals, and he has seen evidence that people of color and transgender individuals are especially targeted. Weiner’s goal is to repeal the law, just as it has been repealed in other states.

 

Source: nbcnews.com

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International

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New threat for Poland's 'rainbow families'
Adam Easton
Reposted from BBC.com


Together for more than a decade, Anna and Agnieszka married in Copenhagen three years ago, but their marriage is not legally recognised in Poland, whose constitution stipulates that marriage is a union of a man and a woman.


Now the rules for LGBT+ Poles in this Catholic country are tightening further. They are already barred from adopting children as couples, but some local authorities look favourably on applicants adopting as single parents. Poland's justice ministry has proposed that a legal loophole should be closed to prevent LGBT+ people from adopting children completely.

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Enlighten Me

 

THAT MYSTERIOUS BEING WITHIN US ALL
Mark Lang

 

Whenever I receive recognition for some accomplishment, I make a point of mentioning that the true credit goes to the mysterious being that dwells within me. What do I mean by “mysterious being?” Well, let’s put it this way: it is that which sees through my eyes.

Let me ask you a few enlightened questions: who do you become when you enter into dreamless sleep each night? What mysterious being keeps your heart beating? What is that which causes you to draw a breath consciously but which cannot be drawn in by your breath? (Notice I do not use the term, “God” in this context because that word is distorted and misrepresented too much by religious extremists.)

If you think you can think your way to understanding this mysterious being, think again? It cannot be truly understood directly, only peripherally. It’s like when you are trying to see a very faint star in the night sky. When you look directly at it, it vanishes. However, if you use your peripheral vision and look to one side of that dim star, it becomes visible.

Similarly, if you try to understand the mysterious being by directly thinking about it, it eludes you. When you chase after it, you case it away. Alternatively, by viewing the mysterious being peripherally, you can see more of it—but not completely. It’s as if you see it out of the corner of your subconscious awareness; this does not imply in any way that you can completely understand this mysterious being. To claim full understanding would not only be arrogant, but it would also be delusional. Consider such a misguided claim with skepticism.

I knew a man like that; he claimed to know the will of God. He belonged to a church which believed their interpretation of the scriptures was the only “right” one. Armed with this group delusion, he felt validated and supported in his irrational beliefs. So, with an authoritarian tone of voice, he would publicly tell people (outside of his religious group) what God wanted them to do.

The problem with this type of grandiose thinking is that it’s so extremely self-congratulatory! It also creates a feeling of separation from the nonbelievers. The more you put yourself on a pedestal, the more you distance yourself from your fellow human beings. It should come as no surprise, then, to find that when you make a habit of separating yourself from others, you end up feeling lonely and depressed.

The religious man I referred to earlier had moments of extreme elation when he would convince himself he knew the will of God. These emotional highs inevitably had bouts of deep depression where he felt socially disconnected and isolated. (You probably already guessed that.) Back and forth he would go between the highs and lows. It ruined two of his marriages and put a strain on his relationship with his children. Eventually, he sought professional help and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and properly treated.

During the time I counseled him, he was refusing to take his medication because he was feeling better. He was clearly in the manic phase of his disorder. He would get so excited that he would hop out of his chair to show me biblical quotes. Then he would start in with those self-righteous statements such as, “Did you know that you will not inherit the kingdom of God unless you believe this? Do you know that people with tattoos are going to hell? Did you know that it is a sin against God to have long hair?”

When I pointed out that Jesus, himself, had long hair, he refused to believe it. In fact, he refused to believe anything that contradicted his dogmatic beliefs. He simply dismissed any contrary evidence as being a deception from the devil. Science, in particular, seemed most objectionable to him. He rejected any scientific data before I could even finish my sentence.

As previously stated, people who judge others are creating an emotional separation that exacerbates their feelings of isolation, and this man suffered greatly from loneliness and depression. With the painful memories of two failed marriages and disengagement from his children, he isolated himself even further by only interacting with likeminded members of his church. He stopped seeing me altogether. To this day, his fate is unknown.

Something to meditate on today. After reading this, close your eyes and sit in silence for fifteen minutes. Do not try to hang on to any thought. Just let your thoughts come and go. Visualize each of your thoughts slowly tumbling down like dried leaves falling off a tree in autumn and settling on the ground.

In the silence, reach out with your senses and feel the presence of the mysterious being within you—that life energy. Feel your heart beating in your chest and recognize that energy as pure love. Now feel the interconnectedness you share with the life energy of every being on the planet. Feel what that is like for you.

Then open your eyes and start living life with the understanding you are one with all living things. The mysterious being within you connects with the mysterious being in all others. After all, life energy is life energy in any form.

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New Wellness

 

THE SUPERHERO
Ron Blake

 

A large group of exuberant teenage students surrounded me at a picnic table just outside the student center at Rutgers University in Newark, New Jersey. On that warm autumn day.   

  

I stood out. A lot. I had numerous giant foam poster boards with me for a big PTSD advocacy project I was working on. The next morning I would be giving a presentation on their campus. 

  

This modern version of the St. Elmo’s Fire brat pack took a shine to what I was doing. They all quickly shared in a variety of languages their colorful written stories of support for my efforts on those oversized boards.   

  

The road then went down a side street I wasn’t expecting. The next 90 seconds of comedic relief would be filled with what can best be described in five simple words. Did that really just happen?  

  

Someone asked me how old I was. My response was 48 years of age.  

  

One of the not so bashful boys loudly shouted, “You’re old!” A split second later one of the coeds exclaimed, “Ain’t that right.”  
  

What do you say to that?  In a most charming, self-deprecatory manner I answered, "Yup.” Served back with an aw-shucks smile. I couldn’t give them the satisfaction of a hangdog defeated look. 

   

They looked at me up and down for some time. With wide-eyed astonishment and wonder. Like I was a specimen. From a museum. A zoo. Or some sterile laboratory in the nearby science building. 

  

One of the females ended her mute ways with a bombshell about my appearance. She told me I looked like a young Daniel Craig. The one. The only. James Bond.    

 

Now I felt an Olympic moment in time. All the judges were weighing in on her assessment of my striking similarity to the world’s most famous secret agent. I got solid agreement from the students. Except for the judge from Hoboken. He didn’t see the resemblance. 

 

And she added, “Wow. Some of you old guys can still make a difference." The call and response from the peanut gallery brought out some robust affirmatives and nods of all the heads.   

 

After some additional banter, they eventually hugged me. Shook hands with me. And had but one powerful parting message for me, “Keep saving the world 007!”   

 

They all laughed as they went on with their day. As did I. But I knew. Right at that instant. They did not laugh at me. They laughed...in disbelief at what they just experienced. Old doesn't mean useless. And old doesn't mean forty-eight. 

 

This mature superhero’s cape fiercely fluttered in the wind. Just a little more proudly at that moment. Ready for the challenges of the next day! 

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Uncle Barbie

 
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Your Intellectual Whore
"An effervescently gay advice columnist."

 

Disclaimer: Although the author of this syndicated column holds a doctorate in clinical psychology, the tongue-in-cheek advice given is for entertainment only and is not a substitute for therapy. Barbie responds to all emails...whether you deserve it or not. Send your questions to Uncle Barbie at:
askunclebarbie@aol.com

DEFINING LOVE

 

Dear Uncle Barbie,

What is love? A feeling or unconditional commitment? Maybe it’s both?

Unsigned

 

Hello Unsigned,

From a psycho-dynamic perspective, the feeling of love stems from the unconscious mind (were our primal desires lie). Since this desire is unconscious, many people do not know where these deep feelings of love are coming from (as may be the case with you). They wonder why they feel so passionately in love with a person for no apparent reason.

 

Additionally, love is more than just a feeling. It is a need, as well--a physical need for intimacy and touch. (You may have heard about the studies that were done in orphanages where the babies who were not touched had a much higher mortality rate than the babies who were touched.) People need to be touched in a nurturing way—at any age.

 

Love can also be qualified as a biological need to reproduce (although some of us have learned to control our reproductive urges—thank goodness). Which reminds me, although experiencing the emotion of love is not a conscious choice, the expression of love as an action is within our control. This is where different cultures vary regarding courting rules, ethics, and morals. You asked about unconditional commitment. This, of course, would fall under the heading of “love as a CHOICE.” Commitment is a firm decision you consciously choose.

 

Before I end, I need to say that love is not always sexual. Family, friends, and pets are all examples of living things that we love (romance not needed). But I don’t think that’s the type of love that your question was referring to, now was it? No, I didn’t think so.

 

Love Whom You Please, but Please Whom You Love, Barbie

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Horoscopes

by Eric Bigleon
 
Astrology Map

ARIES (Mar 21 - Apr 19)
All the focus in on you at this time. Enjoy but be sure to include others. A very productive and satisfying time.

TAURUS (Apr 20 - May 20)
Life is not boring as you put your nose to the grindstone. Recharge with meditation then keep pushing forward. There is life at the end of this tunnel. 

GEMINI (May 21 - June 21)
Busy. Busy. Busy. Others are not on the same page and think you are being pushy. You surprisingly are enjoying this. 

CANCER (June 22 - July 22) 
Work seems to be occupying all your time. This is a bit much for you now. You want to slow down for a while. Spend quiet time to recharge. It all comes to focus in a short while. 

LEO (July 23 - Aug 22)
You feel empowered now. Just make sure your ducks are in a row before you push forward. There may be some unexpected surprises here. 

VIRGO (Aug 23 - Sep 22)
Others are rattling your cage. Don't let it get to you. Everything will calm down shortly. Put the time in. 

LIBRA (Sep 23 - Oct 22)
The ball is in your court so do what you want to do. Your interaction with others goes smoothly so use up that bottled up energy. 

SCORPIO (Oct 23 - Nov 21)
Spending more enjoying less. There just doesn't seem to be an anchor for you right now. You just can't get it together. Try a little brainwork now then move forward. 

SAGITTARIUS (Nov 22 - Dec 21)
You have a little friction going on in your life right now but you are in a good place and grounded so you can handle it. Very mental time. 

CAPRICORN (Dec 21 - Jan 19)
You can do whatever you want now. Very fulfilling time and you can accomplish whatever you want to. It's good to be alive. 

AQUARIUS (Jan 20 - Feb 18)
Very creative for you now. You come up with new ideas to improve your life physically and mentally. There is a lot to be learned here.

PISCES (Feb 19 - Mar 20)
Its about you and others flock to you for guidance. Recharge and engage others. There may be a surprise in it for you personally.

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OUR COMMUNITY KNOWS HOW TO FIGHT

The collective trauma around COVID-19 is real and it can feel overwhelming. We know firsthand the pain of lost loved ones, isolation, and anxiety about the future of our communities. That's why it is so important to take the necessary steps to stop the spread and protect those close to you. According to CA guidance, the best measures to mitigate the spread of COVID-19 include wearing a mask, washing your hands, staying 6 feet apart, avoiding gatherings, testing, and getting vaccinated.
 

You can register to be notified when it's your turn to get vaccinated next at MyTurn.ca.gov ~ Vaccines are safe, effective, private, and free. 

You can also get more info on COVID-19 at covid19.ca.gov ~ Learn more about vaccinations at VaccinateALL58.com.

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P O Box 4959, Fresno, CA 93744

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